Many people don't understand when they come across someone that says "I love myself".
You may think that these type of people are 'up themselves' or 'all that'. These 'I love myself' people could quite possibly look down on you, put you down for not being like them and/ or find any or all your flaws and ridicule them.
The truth is, these type of 'I love myself' people are FAKE! If they flaunt that they love themselves, it is all a charade, a mask covering up the flaws that they want others to look away from. I have met plenty of these people and it saddens me that they have this illness. Please forgive them,
If you want to say to yourself 'I love me', the first thing is accepting all your flaws. Truthfully, it will take a while and it can be a bit confronting at first as you may not want to accept them. Let it all out though, warts and all. And remember, this is all private, no one else needs to know this. You can do this is the most effective way possible, whether it is writing it down, drawing it, talking about it to yourself, mind mapping it, what ever way you find it most comfortable and understanding.
Remember this rule: Don't make excuses towards love and happiness.
Some examples of flaws could be physical, a scar, skin colour, hair colour, weight or figure, height, shortness. It could be personality, too quiet, too loud, sense of humour, interests, . It could be the way you have grown / brought up, experiences, knowledge, religious beliefs, cultural background. When I see this list, I see beauty in all of these examples. Now you must realise the beauty in them. I cannot do it for you, for that will be my view and not yours. But trust me, there is beauty and love and intelligence, just make the effort to see it.
Once you realise these flaws, one by one, you start understanding that this is the real you. You may feel like you want to fight it and bury it in the ground again and not have to confront it again. But if you accept it, you may start to understand life around a bit better. YOU may understand that this is why YOU do something a certain way. You may understand other people a bit more, You may even start tolerating people a lot more than you used to. YOU YOU YOU, YOU start realising how YOU are important.
Once you start realising and accepting your flaws, and realising how important you are, you start to live life more productively. You may start seeing these flaws as a gift. That this is a uniqueness that no one else has and you CAN use it as a benefit to yourself and to your life.
For example, I used to dislike my skin colour. Throughout all my schooling years in fact. I was generally the only dark skinned boy in my year level. I felt like the odd one out, I had friends but I didn't think I understood what an Aussie life was, being a Aussie born kid with a Sri Lankan background. But little did I know that the knowledge I had was amazing, interesting and inspiring. It was just that others didn't want to understand, and of course, they were kids, they would rather play video games instead. UNDERSTANDING is the key here.
You may feel you are becoming tolerant to those you were once irritating to you. As you meet with them, you can try to understand what it is that is making you find them irritating. Now you have the choice, you can either accept them and understand them, or make them redundant.
Remember these rules. Don't destruct yourself for temporary happiness, rather construct yourself for permanent happiness. You live with yourself all the time, not just whenever.
You are a treasure chest of wealth and knowledge. UNLEASH IT to yourself, accept it and work with it, not against it. And naturally other will see this beauty and admire it.
